Haters And Caregivers

Living on the Edge (of the Mogollon Rim)

Living on the Edge (of the Mogollon Rim)

RIM ROAD, AZ — #BATGAP #Emptiness #FourthWall #MiracleLog

May 28, 2015 7:30 AM

As to be expected, the attention from the BATGAP interview has brought with it the ire of the haters. Anonymous people calling me names, making fun of the way I look, the way I live, criticizing things I said half a decade ago… even my photography (now that’s just mean). Synchronistically (of course), Trey Ratcliff—one of only about a dozen bloggers I follow and who has a great saying about haters—recently put out a video where around the 10:00 minute mark talks about if you consistently do what you love, then the right people will show up. Then, this morning (more synchronicity (are you seeing the pattern here?)) Seth Godin posts about haters and that we should not take their names down, but take the names of those who are fans, supporters, and sneezers (people who share your work).

Feed the lovers, not the haters.

So to all you who are “lovers”, who are appreciative and share my stuff—and I know how difficult it is to share my work since it is so different than most nondual teachings—I say from the bottom of my heart, Thank-you. I love you.

And on the note of “so different than most nondual teachings,” I have some further thoughts about what I said in the interview about Eckhart Tolle and the need for a caregiver.

Both Eckhart Tolle and Ramana Maharshi (I know, I know, I’m just asking for haters) both experienced what I call surprise enlightenment. They weren’t looking for enlightenment, they didn’t even know what it was (detaching from your thoughts/identity), they hadn’t spent their days researching or seeking it, and so when their identity was seen through and fell away, they were left in a state of deep psychological shock (because they were ignorant of “enlightenment”).

What is beautiful about these two people, is how they exemplify what perfect non-identity/egoless-ness looks like. They serve as a wonderful example of an ideal.

But ideals aren’t practical or realistic. Ideals—by their nature and definition— are very black and white in a world filled with colors.

Because both Tolle and Maharshi fell unexpectedly into these ideal states, they basically needed caregivers to take care of them. Kim Eng, takes care of a lot of Tolle’s needs and Ramana Maharshi had the entire staff of a temple to look after his.

Why did they need caregivers? Simply because one of the traits of what I call Emptiness is that, once all boundaries are seen through and the Unity is experienced, every “thing” holds the same value to the observer as everything else. In other words, you value your body no more than that tree over there. This is exemplified in the famous story of how Maharshi would allow vermin and bugs to bite his feet and legs while he sat completely dis-identified from the world and Tolle (to a lesser extent) just sitting on a bench for three years while enthralled with his experience.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Tolle and Maharshi, I love the ideal that they represent. Is it practical? No. Is it integrated? No. Is it beautiful and inspiring? Absolutely.

Surprise enlightenment (as opposed to a more integrated version) is a very beautiful thing, but—and this is a big but—it requires a caregiver simply because there is no reason for them to take care of themselves (as demonstrated by Maharshi (I’m all about evidence) where he didn’t value his body anymore).

We can learn a lot from these beautiful, ideal examples, but it isn’t something we should strive for (who wants a caregiver?).

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13 thoughts on “Haters And Caregivers

  1. Hey Man, forget about the people that hate. I was told once, one third of the people are going to get you and love you, one third are going to hate you and one third are just not going to care at all. If you spend all your time focused on the two thirds that hate and don’t care, you will lose the ones that really matter. So I agree with you. Also, I really liked your interview, I thought you were very genuine and very clear about where you are at. You are kind of a hero to me, cuz I have had a living in van fantasy for a long time, just haven’t had the balls to do it yet. I hope I see you parked up on the rim some day. Blessings for you and your journey.

  2. You are loved, the whole of existence is with you. The difference is haters seem to have forgotten they are part of the whole, temporally trapped in their separateness.
    Didn’t get a chance to watch your BATGAP interview yet, i’m sure your purpose is to awaken people from your own unique, inimitable perspective- which is perfect.
    A true guru should be a clear mirror, helping us to remember. It is our responsibility to be each other’s gurus.

  3. Thank you for the wonderful interview. I felt profound truth and inspiration in your words and way of being! Monica

  4. World isn’t used to Embodied Truth…just like anything new, they have to crucify it, if it’s “before it’s time” We like to see it wrapped in a Zen robes, a clergyman’s/priest collar, halo’ed saints and , orange “lineage” clothes, something less challenging than a Gandhi or Wayne Wir in a van…. Doncha luvvit ? She definitely messes with us to our great good fortune to hasten our fading/dying/withering on the vine of separation. The wind is finally at my back too but I wasn’t there when the Threshold was crossed. Grinning back at you brother. 🙂

  5. I agree with the others here. Thought it was a great interview. It was really good to hear you talk. Sorry about the haters tough, but what can you do? What you are saying I guess, feed the lovers, not the haters

  6. Hi Wayne! Thank you for your beautiful sharing. It really hit the spot for me. It gave me the opportunity share some thoughts along the same lines with some good friends. I share your inclination to be put under the control of god and row gently down the stream. Wayne Dyer also used this analogy for life.
    As to the point about god, I love Einstein’s statement “coincidence is god’s way of remaining anonymous.”

    Stay beautiful, and I hope to talk to you soon.

  7. I loved the interview, too. I think I’ve watched every batgap interview and yours was one of my favorites. I love that you are genuine and sincere. And I’m really glad that the interview led me here. I find your musings very uplifting. Thank you.

  8. Hello – I just discovered you and your blog via BATGAP. The interview was wonderful. Really, really appreciated what you said and how you said it. Just sharing some love! We’ve all got haters. Don’t let them get you down. 🙂

  9. Hi Wayne,
    I heard your BATGAP interview and it led me to your website. Since then, I have pretty much read your whole online blog as well as the Free Enlightenment book.
    I am sorry I could not “share”, since I do not have a single like-minded friend. I am at a strange place in my life right now and don’t know what is next for me. I keep looking for indications from who you call “Her”, though I don’t know if I would even recognize them. I did get to your interview, and wonder if it was random or I was led.
    I hope you are doing well now. I liked all that I read and heard in your videos.
    Love your authenticity, no doubt you are always true to yourself.

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